Three feelings essential to positive, constructive human relationships include hope, love and trust. Having one doesn't mean the other two will be present. It also doesn't necessarily exclude the others.
Hope comes first...born of dreams and our innocent belief that they can come true.
Most of us hope we will find a special partner in life; someone to share our deepest feelings and experiences; the things that make us who we are.
If and when we do, Love is the largest of the feelings we generally experience.
Nonetheless, our problems, experiences and feelings are not always easy to handle for another person. We may have already come to grips with what has happened to or because of those events and emotions, but the person we want to share our life with may not find it a simple task. Perhaps they don't even want to. There's only one way to find out.
Ask them.
Love doesn't always mean sharing every tiny detail of all we think, live and go through. Love, if it is true and honest, however, should allow for whatever level of sharing that we need. If our partner cannot or will not allow that sharing, there must be allowance for other relationships that can. Whether a counselor, sibling or best friend; there must be people we can go to when we are so troubled that solutions to difficulties elude us.
That is where Trust comes in. Intimacy is essential to that. There must be open and ample opportunity to share with your beloved, face to face, when you are troubled, without fear of anger, judgment or reprisal.
Those things that cause us suffering are most often things we are afraid we cannot control; sometimes we think they are things we can't do anything about.
Hope, Love and Trust, we must find first,
within ourselves.
Hope comes first...born of dreams and our innocent belief that they can come true.
Most of us hope we will find a special partner in life; someone to share our deepest feelings and experiences; the things that make us who we are.
If and when we do, Love is the largest of the feelings we generally experience.
Nonetheless, our problems, experiences and feelings are not always easy to handle for another person. We may have already come to grips with what has happened to or because of those events and emotions, but the person we want to share our life with may not find it a simple task. Perhaps they don't even want to. There's only one way to find out.
Ask them.
Love doesn't always mean sharing every tiny detail of all we think, live and go through. Love, if it is true and honest, however, should allow for whatever level of sharing that we need. If our partner cannot or will not allow that sharing, there must be allowance for other relationships that can. Whether a counselor, sibling or best friend; there must be people we can go to when we are so troubled that solutions to difficulties elude us.
That is where Trust comes in. Intimacy is essential to that. There must be open and ample opportunity to share with your beloved, face to face, when you are troubled, without fear of anger, judgment or reprisal.
Those things that cause us suffering are most often things we are afraid we cannot control; sometimes we think they are things we can't do anything about.
Hope, Love and Trust, we must find first,
within ourselves.
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